How To Keep a Healthy Relationship After Having Children
As parents, we love our children and consider them to be beautiful blessings. But let’s be honest: they make most things more complicated than they used to be. Simple stuff like going to the store or watching a movie can seem nearly impossible. And, with all the demands that kids put on us every day, it can be especially tough to maintain a healthy relationship with our partners. Here are some great ways to keep a healthy relationship after having children.
Make Time for Each Other
When each day is filled to the brim with diaper changes, rinsing bottles, and endless loads of laundry, it can be easy to go for long stretches without spending some one-on-one time with your partner to simply talk and share a moment that doesn’t revolve around children or to-do lists. Schedules and routines are great for children, and they can also be the perfect way to make sure you carve out some time to be with one another. Put it on your calendar and stick to it. Be sure to focus on each other completely – no chores!
While You’re at It, Do Some Sex Scheduling
I think most of us can agree that Google Calendar isn’t exactly an aphrodisiac. And scheduling our most intimate moments can make it feel more like a trip to the dentist. But the truth is, if you don’t make an effort to put it on the calendar, it may never happen, and physical intimacy is vital for the health of a relationship. In fact, you don’t always have to have sex during these times. You can cuddle, snuggle, spoon – whatever you want. The point is simply to ensure that you make time to be physically intimate with each other.
Go on Dates
I do mean real, actual dates. You don’t necessarily have to get dressed up and go to a fancy restaurant (although that sounds pretty nice). But you do need to have the babysitter, friend, or relative come over and watch the children while the two of you go enjoy a kid-free activity. Go to the movies, grab some cocktails, and have dinner without a highchair at your table. You can do whatever you like! The only rule is that there is that you’re not allowed to talk about the children. Keep the focus on yourselves while you can, because just like Cinderella, your special night will end before you know it. Then it’s back to reality.
Do you notice a pattern between the three suggestions? It’s all about making an effort to have time for each other. Show your partner that you love them by making them a priority in your schedule. You’ll be amazed at the powerful effect you’ll see!